I never thought I’d be writing a piece on my trying to conceive (TTC) journey, but here I am, sitting at my desk wondering exactly how I am going to put these last few months into words.
Growing up, society teaches you how not to get pregnant. Ironically, I am learning that for some, including myself, getting pregnant isn’t as easy as “they” make it seem.
In early March, my husband Chris and I, decided we were ready to be parents! Being someone who suffers from Hashimoto’s Disease the first thing I did was reach out to all of my physicians. After blood-work, and a number of gynecological exams, I was cleared to begin this journey. I spent endless nights researching foods to stay away from, cutting back on my coffee intake and made many other changes. I was convinced I’d get pregnant right away!
It is now June and we still are not pregnant. Silly me for thinking the girl with unstable Thyroid Stimulating Hormone (TSH) and T4 (free thyroxine) levels would get pregnant on the first try.
Let’s talk about all the anxiety around this! You think you have anxiety under control until you pee on the stick. It’s funny how a little pee test makes your heart skip a beat, or maybe two. Four months have passed and my anxiety still kills me as I wait for those two little pink lines to appear. Each time it doesn’t, my heart breaks a bit more. I think my biggest fear is four months turning to five, five turning to six and so on. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, but it doesn’t make it any better.
If you are one of those people who have told a woman who is trying to conceive any of these statements, “Don’t worry, it happens when you least expect it!, It happens when you stop trying!, Just have fun!” chances are she gave you the middle finger when you turned your back. Sorry, not sorry! This is most certainly not the advice we need, instead, we need empathy and we need compassion…
Here are 5 tips on what to say to a woman who is TTC …
1) Send a PRAYER her way!
2) EMPOWER her not to give up!
3) ENCOURAGE her that SHE GOT THIS!
4) REMIND her this is one thing she never second guessed!
5) Tell her it will be WORTH the wait!
My heart is with all the woman and their significant others who are on the same journey as me. Hope we are all showered with baby dust in the future!